Bob Wingate's Blog

The Most Dangerous Kind of Bondage

Is anyone concerned with or talking about safety issues these days? I’m constantly being contacted by guys who don’t know me from Adam, asking me what I’m doing and if I'd like to meet up with them right away for a bondage session.

 

Of course they could know me from Adam if they wanted to, since I’ve been around a long time and have a good reputation. But many younger guys who see me on Recon and like the photos in my gallery don’t even bother to read my profile before they contact me. And I know from friends that guys contact lots of others the same way.

 

In pre-internet days, hooking up for bondage scenes tended to take longer. You went through relatively lengthy exchanges of letters and photos and phone calls if you met people through classified ads, or found out what they were like in person and were advised to get references about them from friends if you met them in bars. 

 

Nowadays everything happens at warp speed: You check out who’s online and find someone you may not know from Adam but who looks appealing and lives nearby and isn’t 100 percent passive. You need to get tied up right away, so you message him with the hope that he’s willing and able and will invite you right over to make you his sub or his slave. What, he can’t host? Well, you’re home alone, so you invite him to your place. What does it matter if it’s your place or his? All that matters is that you get tied up.

If You Ever Doubted You Were Sane…

In the early years of Bound & Gagged, large numbers of readers told me that until the magazine came along they thought they were alone with their perverse desires to be tied up and to tie up their fellow men, to the point where many had seriously considered suicide.

 

Let us all, therefore, be reassurred by an article in yesterday’s Huffington Post reporting that a study in the May Issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that people involved in BDSM scored better on certain indicators of mental health than those who only do vanilla sex.

 

“Despite past assumptions that BDSM proclivities might be correlated with previous abuse, rape or mental disorders …BDSM-friendly participants were found to be less neurotic, more open, more aware of and sensitive to rejection, more secure in their relationships and have better overall well-being.”

 

This is great! For the full article, click here.