Sometimes a few hours with a good bondage professional, expensive though he may be, can be worth several years of psychological counseling. While the therapist listens again and again in a presumably non-judgmental way to you confessing and reconfessing your embarrassing fantasies in an attempt to rid yourself of them, the good professional colludes with you to live those fantasies out and makes you feel less embarrassed for entertaining them at all. He not only shares them with you; he does so from the desired perspective. Then, after a good session where you’ve been given exactly what you desire, you can go back to living your regular life, feeling fulfilled, less alone, and confident that your secrets are as safe as you need them to be.