I said yesterday that today I’d post the questions you asked me. The fact is that only one of you—my friend Leo, who’s also the only top I heard from—asked any questions at all. Fortunately, though, Leo asked a bunch.
I have my own answers for some if not all of Leo's questions. Two or three would call for the advice of someone with real medical knowledge,it seems to me.
Please send me your ideas and opinions. I'll give my own next week
If Leo’s questions make you come up with questions of your own, I wish you’d ask them, too. Don’t be embarrassed to ask, bondage is a thrill sport and no questions about it are stupid. And as I can never repeat often enough, I post everything anonymously, or with made-up first names, unless specifically requested to give real names.
You know where to find me: Write me at [email protected]
1. “What do you do if the bottom keeps giving you the wrong safe-word and it is somewhat unclear that he means it and he has told you not to interrupt the session unless he uses a specific word or pair of words?”
Leo answers his own question in the next sentence, but I'll leave that answer till next week, too.
So what would you do if you were the top/dom? Or, as a bottom/sub, what would you want the top/dom to do?
2. Leo, who tells me he loves to teach new guys, asks: “If a bottom says he wants a really tough session but in the past when you met him he has indicated that he is ‘new to all this,’ do you call him on it? Or make him negotiate, and then hold him to his words and have some fun, and scare him a little when he finds out he has bitten off more than he can chew?”
3. “Is there such a thing as an anal catheter, to let fecal matter pass through a tube? This would be for long-term mummification. It goes without saying the bottom would have to be given a laxative or lots of water beforehand. Is the alternative to plug him and have him stop eating a day or two in advance of the session?”
4. “In the same vein, where can you learn about catheterization without going to medical school. What I’d like is personal instruction. I don’t trust what I learn from a book to teach me technique.”
5. “Where in the hell can I get a perfect gag! One that really works, and stops 95% of the sound. I know some sound gets out through the throat (in a rumbling in the throat) and even from the mouth behind the gag. Is it possible for a gag to have a tube extending into the windpipe past the larynx, thereby preventing air from affecting the speech area of the throat? There are no real ‘vocal cords’, I know that for a fact, I saw it on the Discovery Channel. The bottom would of course still be able to breathe quite well with the gag I envisage, I think, but I’d probably need to go to medical school for that one too. But it wouldn’t be too hard to make: Take a ball gag, make a hole in it and pass a tube through it. Just make positive you don’t lose the tube down the bottom’s throat if you don’t connect it securely to the ball gag, and DON’T use a toxic adhesive if you try it. (This is not something I’m suggesting anyone should try!!).”
I'd really appreciate your answers, and your questions. Write me!
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