My friend Patrick Noble, who wrote me about a great college experience last week, sent me this very nice piece when I asked him, as I tend to ask everyone, how he got turned on to bondage in the first place.
That's hard to remember. I've been into it since the beginning of my sexual memory. I guess it started with the cartoon, Johnny Quest. I saw him getting tied up by villains and stuff. Also magicians getting tied up was a turn on. Although, admittedly I don't even think I knew what a turn on was at that age. I started doing google searches for boys tied up (my parents actually found that stuff on the computer history and I got some serious talking tos, haha). The google searches got me to Bound & Gagged and the free video clips. The Salesman was my favorite. Still is, actually.
Unfortunately I don't remember how old I was during all of this. I know Johnny Quest started around 4th grade, and my interest in magic was around the 5th grade, but I actually can't remember anything from the 4th grade until the middle 7th grade and it all happened in between then.
I was bullied a lot (or at least my parents tell me I was bullied a lot) during those years. I have only a few very scattered memories of school and what I did after school. I know I was alone a lot, because I can remember those parts. I know that I had karate classes on Fridays, but I got laughed at a lot at those and I remember not liking them specifically because of that. I didn't really ever open up to anyone about my sexual kinks at all, but played bondage games with some friends: stuff like playing Johnny Quest and acting it out in real life, or Indiana Jones, or James Bond, but I didn't have a lot of friends so these times were pretty isolated incidents and I don't know how old I was when they happened.
I started doing summer theater when I was 11, right as I was about to go into the 6th grade. I have good memories of that summer and I made my first friend (who is still my best friend to this day), and that's when memories start coming back and also when I started to realize that my fantasies were sexual in nature. I don't remember the sixth grade a lot, but I do remember a bit of 7th grade. I slimmed down, started pretending I was into girls, and got more involved with theater. I had male friends for the first time in my life—none of them lasting friendships—but I remember fantasizing about tying them up on pool tables like in Boy on Tap.
I was closeted until sophomore year of high school, and spent almost all of my energy trying to remain in the closet. I didn't even try to focus on bondage or chasing those desires. My coming out story is fun, but maybe for another email. The short story is that I was already popular and I just started hooking up with guys at parties instead of girls and there was almost no fuss from anyone.
I got laid a looooot in high school after I came out. More than any normal student council/drama/mental health activist high schooler should, but there were a good number of out guys and sexually active closeted guys in my high school. I even tied one of them up a few times. He was kind of a jerk actually, but I wound up losing my virginity to him (I topped. I actually didn't bottom until my freshman year of college). Like all virginity-losing stories, it's awkward and the sex was terrible. But other than that guy I never did any bondage stuff in high school.
I really couldn't say when I started actively hiding the internet searches from Mom and Dad! Best guess? I think I knew how to look up the pictures and clear the internet history by the time I was 11. And I was definitely experimenting with self bondage and watching the B&G videos by the time I was 12. I used to dream about modeling for the videos haha, and getting really buff.
Hope that's what you were looking for :)
That was exactly what I was looking for, what I'm always looking for. Wish I could encourage more of you to dig into your early memories and tell me how you first got turned on to bondage, or just to write me about one of your memorable bondage experiences. You'll start remembering a lot more than you think you do, and will have a lot more fun writing these things down than you expect. Almost everyone who writes me tells me so. Just click on my email address, [email protected], and start writing.
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